The “STUBBORN” fat or The ” STUBBORN” you….

“I have tried everything to lose weight but nothing is helping.”  “I tried dieting and lost weight but once I stopped i gained double and now i am not loosing it.” “I work out 6-7 days every week and still weight is stuck at the same.”  “I do not touch sweets, eat only salads at night, go for a walk daily but not loosing weight.”  or the worst one i have heard is “No matter what i do i know i will never lose weight because I have tried everything.”

Does any one of the above statements relate to you???? If yes than please understand that you are becoming the victim of myth and wrong information floating all around and more than that , you are becoming “SLAVE” to your mind.  In the desperation to lose weight we go through all the extremes by listening to others experiences, results and advises. “My sister-in-law joined that gym and lost 10 kg’s”. “My friend followed the GM diet and lost 12 kilo. I think i should start it.” “My cousin went through Ayurvedic massage treatment and lost so many inches.” And…. we all start following the same path and keep shelling our money without thinking.

It irritates me that people don’t use their own mind to think what will suite their body. In this non-stop marathon of loosing weight we end up ruining our health, our charm, our vitality, our fitness and end up being more stressed and gain more “FAT”.

We do everything possible (what we feel is the right thing to do) and we do it all with limitations in our mind like:

1) I do not want to go to a Nutritionist. She will ask me to follow a strict diet and now i can’t do it. I cannot stop eating my favorite food.

2) I do not need a personal trainer. I will learn a few exercises myself and do it. They are too expensive.


We need to change our thought pattern and start thinking in positive affirmations.  Our thoughts play a big role in halting our fat loss- muscle gain.

Stop saying: 

I can’t lose weight I know.

I am trying really hard but this fat is not moving only. I will never look like …….

Now that I have 2 kids, that’s it. I cannot get back to my desirable figure.

Instead of making all these assumptions and trying to talk to everyone out there about what they are doing, look within yourself. Assess your lifestyle and eating pattern and try to understand where you are going wrong. Start changing your thoughts and say ” I know I can do it.” ” I know I can lose weight and look gorgeous, not for anyone but for myself.” Accept yourself fully and the main thing is START LOVING YOURSELF  the way you are now to achieve what you want. Give your body the love and care it desires and it will give you everything that you want. It’s just like, you want your partner to love you and pamper you and in return you take care of all his needs. Accept your body  as it is and try  positively to reach to your desired goal.

EXERCISE:-  Set 15 mins aside daily for yourself. Go in front of the mirror and look into your own eyes and say 10-15 times: 


Keep repeating this in your head every time you pass by a mirror.

I see women in my daily practice who go day in day out hating their bodies, and feel emotionally drained out and unsatisfied, sad and worthless. Stop blaming your self, people around you, situations and circumstances and take a charge of your thoughts – your life.

Stop being stubborn on yourself. Stop negating yourself.  If you will believe you “can’t”, than you never will. Think positive and work towards it.


You do not need to stop eating your favorites to lose weight. In today’s time, with the way our lifestyles are, it is very important to see and follow the guidance of a well qualified nutritionist and a personal trainer who understand your nutrient and fitness needs as an individual for an improvement in your overall body composition.

Dr. Taher Kudrati, Senior faculty at K11 Fitness Academy (Mumbai, Maharashtra, India) puts it simply. He says that it is as important to seek the advice of a sports nutritionist and a certified personal trainer, as it is to see a cardiologist in case of cardiac issues and an ortho in case of skeletal pathologies.  He also states that “Asking your friend, doctor or colleague about everything with regards to diet and nutrition and exercise and fitness is like asking your tailor about your hairstyle, make up, house color, car engine problems, child’s project work and your cooking.” ( K11 blog article)

Doctors go through immense studies but that does not include in-depth studies of nutrition. They are not specialized in Nutrition and Physical exercise so it is advised to always seek the help of the professional specialized in nutrition and fitness training.

Economic point of view:-

I have come across people saying “I can follow the diet Monday through Friday but spare me for the weekends as my husband is a big foodie so we go out every weekend.” Assess this statement from the economic stand point. Today, dinner for 2 at any good restaurant (read good not fine dining) bills to at least 2000/- INR so eating out 4 times a month is 8000/- INR . We do not hesitate here at all but when it comes to paying for the nutritionist or a personal trainer all excuses come out. Here we all need to UNDERSTAND that by eating outside we are damaging our health and paying money to damage it.

Investing a couple thousand in your health today by seeking professional help  will help you  save a lot of money later on  expensive medicine and “modern” medical treatments.

Always remember:-

1) Target for complete fitness and not just weight (fat loss). You want to lose fat and gain muscles. In this way you achieve optimal health and fitness and stay young, toned and beautiful.

2) You DO NOT have to stop eating the foods you love. You just need to learn the “art of eating”.  Home made sweets eaten at the right time and in right proportion (not gobbling it down) also contribute good nutrients. Ex. Home made besan laddo when eaten by itself as a snack in between meals provides the essential nutrients like protein from besan and nourishment of home-made ghee ( See my Note on Ghee).  If nuts are added than you get the fiber, required carbs and protein also. Overall you get “Happiness” and no “FAT STORAGE”.

To wrap it up:

Take charge of your life, your present, your future and seek professional help today.



1.  Dr. Taher Kudrati, Senior faculty at K11 Fitness academy, blog article- Fat Loss, Muscle Gain- You Gotta Want It Real Bad. 


9 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Nimesh Mehta on November 23, 2012 at 11:16 am

    Excellent Write up keep it up Radhi…….lots of love Nimesh Mamu


  2. Do you mind if I quote a few of your posts as long
    as I provide credit and sources back to your weblog?
    My website is in the very same niche as yours and my users would certainly benefit from a lot of the information
    you present here. Please let me know if this okay with you.


    • Winona, It will be my pleasure to reach as many people as possible. You can do it as long as you provide credit to all that you quote just like i give ccredit to all whose info i use in my blog.
      Thank you


  3. Hiya very nice site!! Man .. Beautiful .. Superb .. I will bookmark your web site and take the feeds additionally?I am glad to find so many helpful information here in the post, we need develop extra strategies in this regard, thanks for sharing. . . . . .


  4. Posted by Hema Mody on November 25, 2012 at 11:17 pm

    Helpful tips. Nice one Radhi keep it up. I can see myself in what u say. Presently, I am passing thru the same phase as I am putting on. Dr.s say it is due to Thyroid. I have stopped Yoga as it was getting too hectic. Have taken a break. But have started walking for atleast 30-45 mins. I want to reduce come what may.


    • Please start weight training. Just walking will not help. Strength training and weight training is absolutely required to loose the unwanted fat stores while conserving the muscles.


  5. Thanks a lot for sharing this with all of us you actually recognise what you are speaking about!
    Bookmarked. Kindly additionally discuss with my site =).
    We may have a link exchange agreement among us


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: